“Healthy relationships require appreciation and confrontation.” Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott pg 163
The work we did last year in the Fierce Conversations training with Leah Andrews has had lasting impact in my work as a Learning Coach. Given my “golden retriever” personality, my tendency is to compromise being completely honest if I feel it will damage the relationship. Therefore one of the challenges I’ve had to face as a LC is learning to navigate through those (sometimes) difficult conversations; recognizing that exploring the real issues requires honesty- genuine listening and genuine feedback- communicated in a manner that doesn’t compromise the relationship and is an impetus for change.
In reflecting on my year so far, I realize that I have had significantly more “fierce conversations” than in previous years. Coincidence? I think not. I recognize that I had become an expert at avoiding difficult conversations so this has been a definite area of growth for me. Have they all gone perfectly? Absolutely not. But I do believe my emotional and conversational muscles are growing stronger with each of these conversations. More importantly though, are some positive changes that have happened in classrooms following those conversations.